Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure. for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.” Hebrews 13:4
A handful of marriages have to deal with the heartbreaking affairs their respective spouses got involved in one time or another. Some would even dismiss it as something that should be expected. This actually gives me the shivers. This is not what marriage is designed to be. What are some things that we should take note of to affair proof our marriages? Here are some that are backed by the Bible.
First thing to remember is: Two of the top marriage problems are selfishness and communication. The second thing that we should take note of is: The key to a happy marriage is to be aware of each others needs and learn to meet them. That would be a topic all on its own.
For now, know that these two things are the easiest to remember.The first having us deal with our own selfishness.That alone will give us a whole lot of while to be able to resolve within ourselves.And then the communication factor.Do you level with each other as husband and wife? How about fighting fairly? Can you actually look at him or her in the eye during a misunderstanding and still can choose to see the other person as not “the enemy?”
The first two are important pieces to the puzzle, that after all the starry eyed times of courtship, this event sinks in and stares you on the face.And right there we realize, love really is a choice.It’s not about feelings at all. But then again, as some must have been drugged by the endless soap operas, would be all so convinced that they must have fallen out of love and that’s it, only for them to realize after the next succeeding relationships, he or she is caught in the same vicious cycle.
Taking note of these things will probably not guarantee you an affair free marriage, but it will sure beat the odds and would surely lessen the risk.Each spouse should also get a copy of The Power of a Praying Husband/Wife so as to know how to pray for your spouse in every particular detail of his or her life.Living on earth is pretty much a jungle if do not gear ourselves with the right armour.
But then again, you ask, “what if I already messed up?” or “what if my spouse has already betrayed my trust?”I will have to discuss that in the succeeding topics, included in knowing your spouse’s basic need and how we could learn to meet them.A single entry will not suffice for such broad a topic. Please subscribe to this site if you wish to be regularly updated on the upcoming entries on this issue.