He who spares his rod hates his son, but he who loves him disciplines him promptly. Proverbs 13:24
Even parents should know that we do not have the liberty to just spank our kids on a whim. This is something that we do not take advantage of. There are guidelines for spanking that we should take care to heed to. Here’s from the spanking spoon that I recently bought to be included in Marriage and Beyond’s 4th Anniversary Giveaway.
1. Before spanking, consider the place and circumstances. Do not publicly embarass the child.
2. Ask “what is our rule?” or “What did daddy (or mommy) say?” –> You are making sure the child understood your instructions before you correct the child.
3. Ask “What did you do?” –> You are asking the child a personal responsibility for his or her action, THIS IS IMPORTANT!
4. Explain that your love with correction, say, “I love you and want to help you learn to do the right thing next time.”
5. Spank the child, give a few swift but painful swats on the buttocks. The child’s anger or mad cry should change to a softer “giving in” cry.
6. Comfort the child immediately after spanking. do not make the child feel rejected. Hold the child close and reassure him or her of your love. The parent/guardian who spanked should do the comforting.
7. If necessary, have the child make the restitution for the damage done.
The spanking rod’s handle reads “applicable for preschooler and gradeschoolers only” and the other side reads, “Guaranteed Butt Friendly.” We practice spanking at home because we love our son so much that we do not want him to grow up breaking the law and ending up in jail. Yes, that’s a pretty magnified consequence to growing up not following the rules. But something that’s also very real. It happens to the best of families. We follow the above guidelines and the result will speak for itself. We have not just a son who we can live with and understands the values of rules and the consequences of disobeying them. But a very social and confident young man as well. Those who have met him personally will attest to this fact. Spanking will help a child not just learn to obey authorities in the long haul but also respect the laws that are given for us for protection.
Here’s what Focus on the Family has to say About Spanking:
This is because the term discipline derives from the root word “disciple” which means “to teach.” Parents have an ongoing opportunity and responsibility to teach our children how to love well and live life as effectively and healthfully as possible. What we want children to understand is that the gentle sting of a spanking is connected to the greater and often long-term pain of harmful choices. Simply put, prevention is easier than cure.
A child should always receive a clear warning before any offense that might merit a spanking and understand why they are receiving this disciplinary action. If he or she deliberately disobeys, the child should be informed of the upcoming spanking and escorted to a private area. The spanking should be lovingly administered in a clear and consistent manner. Afterward, the lesson should be gently reiterated so that the child understands and learns from this teachable experience.
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