“Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life” (Proverbs 4:23)
The verse above is what we encourage other married couples to hold on to. It is so easy to get distracted by things around us. More often than not, that one time leads to mistake that your family will have to pay consequence for the rest of your life. In our culture where we see marriages break apart, left and right, it is easy to just settle on the thought that it is never gonna get better.
While I know my being married to my husband for 9 years will not exactly give us that strong authority to talk about marriage, we firmly believe we have what, or should I say, “Who” it takes to have a marriage that only gets better through the years. This is not because we are great individuals. On the contrary, we are broken individuals bound to be unselfish but choose to have the Lord mend and mold us to the husband and wife He has designed us to be.
Truth be told, when we become overly confident and start to say, “Separation and marriage issues happen to other people but not us,” that is the time we become vulnerable. Let your guard down and you will find yourself fall sooner or later. No one is infallible.
When a spouse starts to be emotionally unfulfilled in a marriage, that is when being vulnerable begins. Vulnerability welcomes affection from others who will make a person feel validated and appreciated. Then the cycle of drifting apart begins. Communication in marriage is something we firmly believe in. As demonstrative as I am with my affection to my husband, I am as well as passionate when it comes to letting him know how I truly feel. No sugar coating. This is one of the ways I guard my marriage from my end.
As we continue to seek God’s wisdom and choose to nurture our marriage, our culture will always have its way to entice us from enjoying a fulfilling married life. The devil works on the basic unit of society double time, if you have not yet noticed.
In the event that you think this post is no longer applicable to you as you let out a “too late” sigh, just be reminded that no relationship is too strained for God not to be able to restore. 🙂