Parenting Tip: Enjoying Your Child’s World

Another parenting tip I got from the book Say Goodbye to Whining, Complaining, and Bad Attitudes, In You and Your Kids.  It reminds me to cherish my son and indulge him as we sail together in his world. This is especially hard for me because I work from home.  But it is also part of my commitment.  As important as my job is, my child is more important.  It fills my cup to the brim whenever I see in his eyes that he understands why mama needs to work after spending quality time with him. His eyes will not fail to tell me that his love tank needs replenishing, whenever I get too busy for him.

Here is the excerpt from Dr Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller’s book.

One way to honor our children is to enjoy them with their own interests in mind. You may think that’s pretty easy. After all, you’ve been enjoying your children for years. But many parents, after careful examination, discover that they’re enjoying themselves and inviting their children to join in. Often parents determine the conversation topics, the entertainment choices, or the outing destinations. Parents make choices they think will please their children, but in reality, they’re loving their children in ways that they themselves would like to be loved.

One day when my (Scott) children were young, I told them that they could each have a half hour of my time during which I would play whatever they wanted. Melissa, at four years old, chose playing with dolls. I never realized how long a half hour was! We must have explored everything that one doll could say to another. I also learned that dressing a doll is like trying to put an octopus in a string bag. You just get one part in and something else falls off. I realized then that I often choose to enjoy my children according to my own needs and interests instead of theirs.

Do you know your child’s favorite color, foods, or friends? Many children are willing to join in with their parents’ plans and the family ends up having a lot of fun together. But focusing on a child’s interests and topics of conversation can be a good way to show honor. This is especially important with teens. Listening to their music, allowing them to teach you how to play a computer game, or just having a discussion about something they like offers connecting points that parent/child relationships need. The skill of enjoying children according to their needs and interests is one way of honoring kids and expressing to them that they’re valuable.

* an excerpt from the book Say Goodbye to Whining, Complaining, and Bad Attitudes, In You and Your Kids by Dr Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN, BSN.

Parenting Tip: Enjoying Your Child’s World

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